Emotional Intelligence In Leadership

By December 21, 2020 Uncategorized

Today we have a guest post from the founder and CEO of The Centr, Mia Paulus.   If you would like to know more about Mia you can visit her website at miapaulus.com


The word emotional intelligence is thrown around a lot in the business world and sure it sounds great but what does it mean

I often find myself looking up the meaning of words, especially words I hear repeated. I have a tendency to speak in simple, straightforward terms, I always have. So when I hear an unfamiliar word or phrase I enjoy diving into the true meaning, especially words or phrases used in business, such as “emotional intelligence.” The Oxford Languages definition of emotional intelligence is, “the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one’s emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.” So let’s explore what it means to be emotionally intelligent so that we can feel and understand what it is and why it is important.

To have emotional intelligence one has to have discipline over one’s emotions. This is something most of us can easily understand but how is it accomplished? The idea of discipline is often presented but not always expounded upon. In the book The Road Less Traveled M. Scott Peck M.D. refers to discipline. He writes, “Discipline, it has been suggested, is the means of human spiritual evolution.” If you know me then you know that I talk a lot about spirituality. Not necessarily religious spirituality but just that spirituality is an essential element we all need. We need to connect our mind and our heart together. M. Scott Peck goes on to write, “What provides the motive, the energy for discipline? This force I believe to be love.” When we actively choose to have love for mankind then we can be disciplined enough to be the master of our emotions. 

However, although emotional intelligence is something you can choose it’s not easy. Just as it’s not easy for an addict to “just quit” their addiction, they have to want to and be intrinsically motivated to overcome their addiction. In the same way, we have to want to and be intrinsically motivated to be disciplined in order to achieve emotional intelligence. Ultimately, I have found that discipline comes from within. If we don’t want to love others, be a good person or have values then we aren’t going to be able to have the discipline needed to be emotionally intelligent. 

If you are a human being you can gain value from this episode on emotional intelligence. You will learn about the nature of emotional intelligence and how it is achieved with plenty of real life examples. 

You can find practical tips on how to achieve emotional intelligence at the following timestamps:

08:00 — Feel Again

08:40 — Ask Yourself Why

11:09 — Wrestle with yourself

12:25 — Apply your emotions

You will also learn that emotional intelligence does not mean that we should all feel and behave the same. What a boring world that would be! Instead with my tips you will begin to learn how to apply your unique feelings with a grounding maturity. There is a lot to unpack.

You can watch the episode here on Mia’s Facebook Page


Take a moment to gauge your personal emotional intelligence. Be honest with yourself. 

Do you allow yourself to feel your full range of emotions or do you find yourself suppressing your emotions? Do you review your emotional responses and/or analyze why you reacted the way that you did? Are you or your emotions in control?

I invite you to comment below with helpful tips that you have learned on your own personal emotional intelligence journey. I love hearing from you! 

Your partner in business,

Mia Paulus

If you would like to follow Mia on any of her socials you can find her on Facebook, Instagram, Linkedin and Twitter. Her new podcast Simplicity In Business & Life, which airs every Tuesday both as a livestream from Facebook and can be found on Apple Podcast and Stitcher.

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